Should we write a book?

Shorty(wife) and I are approaching, if we have not already passed the point in our relationship where we may or may not be in the most long-lasting long distance relationship ever.

We have been a couple for almost 8 years, and married for almost 2... having said that, we have been apart for more than 1/2 of our relationship. This automatically puts huge speed bumps in a relationship, and marriage.

We have flown in to see one another maybe.... 30 times by now, we spend a month or two together, then the same or more time apart. This is caused mainly because I play baseball, and never know where I'll be playing from one day to another (we found out the hard way last year as Shorty drove 20 hours to be with me for a month until I got moved, where she drove 25 hours to be there with me, until I got moved back(3weeks later... then we said screw this). She is from the Midwest (USA), I and I am from Vancouver, Canada, and still call this home. Shorty is currently in New Mexico following what she loves, as am I. It's not easy, it never is, never was, but hopefully will be once we're together for good. We have made it this far, so I am really thinking, we must have figured something out right? I never wanted to have a long distance relationship, that's the exact reason I broke up with my last girlfriend, I didn't want to try to make it work. But low and behold, Shorty and I have found our way (not a way, our way). We don't ever talk about it or realize how far we've come as a couple, as individuals, as relationship pioneers. We have broken down walls that's probably 99% of couple would have failed at, we have done so much, and still have our lives to accomplish.

The title of this post is a joke, but, could almost be true. If we had the right author and editors around us, we could probably have a bestseller. We have so many stories, so many highs and lows. From living in Europe for 3 years, playing in 2 universities together, accents, crazy nights, random experiences, friends and acquaintances coming and going... oh man, book material!

We have had so much stuff to go through, and are still so unsure about our future, and how it will play out, because so far nothing has gone according to plan. Present times suck (because, yes, we are apart right now) but we know that deep down the other cares so much for us that no matter what, it will be okay, and when WE believe, things work out.

Picture #1 = about 3 minutes after I threw my first no-hitter.
Picture #2 = Shorty and I in Stanley park, Vancouver, BC.
Picture #3 = Us skating ... good times.



Asonas wrote =

"i have one question too. how do you think - What MPH is the lower border an athletics person should be able to throw without any special talent for throwing a ball? i'm teaching myself and other guys pitching here in Latvia where we have no coaches. i'm the fastest thrower on the team and last year I topped out at 78 MPH (my teammates 65-74MPH). i think I can improve this year, and get at least over 80 just by improwing my mechanics. but what should I expect from other who maybe are athletic but not talented in throwing? i wonder how fast jonny damon is throwing - seems to not have a lot of talent for throwing :)

I have taken wayyyy to long to write back to my friends in Latvia, but here it is. First off, thank you for reading my blog, it's good to see it is read all over the world (I even had a comment in Chinese that I couldn't post last week because it was, well, in Chinese). A couple things to let you know about Asonas, the speed of a pitch is only 1/3 of the pitching, the other 2/3 are made up of location (where you pitch it) and movement on the baseball (depending on grips and arm angles). Also, any American pitching coach wouldn't like you referring to pitching as throwing, because pitching means something much different than throwing. Pitching= art. Throwing= throwing something. Not sure if you and your friends are pitchers, but for those who aren't they can still call it throwing :)

To answer your first question, it's actually a very tough question which could have many different answers. But, the average speed of a grown man who doesn't have any pitching coaching in their life I would say 65-75 is decent. Every MPH above that is harder and harder to achieve, but the Internet is a wonderful tool, and there are many ways to read about proper pitching mechanics. For others I would say maybe only 5 MPH less on average, so 60-70MPH would be the average for a grown man (20+).

I never threw hard growing up. I was a guy who mastered his location before figuring out how to throw hard. I got a college scholarship throwing 80-82 MPH, but being able to throw pitches where I wanted to. Then I figured my body out when I was playing in Belgium at age 22, and figured out how to throw 90MPH. So, here's a couple pitching tips to maybe accelerate your fastballs a couple MPH.

-When your throwing hand splits from your glove (which should happen at the exact same time as your knee drops from your leg kick) make sure it stays in an even line behind your body, if you let it get to far behind you, you will lose power, and the batter may have a chance to see what you're throwing.

-Extend! When you release the ball, see how close you can release it to your target. Pretend that you are trying to throw the ball through the glove, not just to it.

-Stand tall. Pretend there is a string going from your butt through your spine, and out through the top of your head, attached to something in the sky, or on the roof.

-Make sure your elbows are up. When your stride foot lands, you should be at the power position. Both elbows at shoulder height, front one flat and.... just check out the picture I found on google.

Johnny Damon has maybe the worst arm of any major leaguer, that's why he's a left fielder... if he wasn't fast he would be a DH, or out of baseball, but speed is so important at that level.
I wish you all the best, and I hope to hear good news that you have raised above 80 MPH, and your friends are approaching 78 MPH!!


Latest session

Yea, it's sideways, I know... my computer wouldn't download the longer upright side angle version... Sorry. That's me last week getting some work in.